Monday, January 12, 2009

Missing: An Adult in My Life Stage

I didn't realize how much I miss having other people around who are in the same life stage as me. (Which more than not is someone ten years older than me--I started early!) I am surrounded every day by 20 somethings. That's not to say that there aren't some amazing 20 somethings in my home, work or church--I just miss being able to relate on life issues with someone my own age, who I can see regularly.

This void has become even more evident recently, (hmmm, maybe because for the last month there was someone around every day in my life stage??) but I didn't know how to remedy it or what to do with it. Thank goodness I had church tonight. I was feeling very disconnected when I first walked into church, maybe even for the first half an hour--not too unusual for me since I do better in small groups as opposed to larger ones--but tonight there was a heaviness weighing on me. I spoke with Pastor's wife for a few minutes before our meeting started and felt an immediate relief. In our prayer time (we break into small groups almost every week to pray) I expressed my need to the three in my group and felt so much more pressure relieved.

And then it hit me: I do know what the remedy is. It is taking a risk, sharing my feelings, and asking for help! (Not to mention lots of prayer!)

3 comments:

Anonymous said...

Why don't you just stop being so old?

T$ said...

And admit that you are in love? Besides, what have you got to lose? Oh, that's right. Nothing.

Superstar said...

Yay, so glad the HS prompted you to reach out, and you DID IT. I can relate to the tendency to be independent and handle things "on my own". But, when we reach out to others, Ahhhhh, sometimes that's all we needed to do. And, now I will also be praying for you to find a person, or people to meet that need. It's funny because, I have felt the need for a person who is a little "ahead" of me in life stage so that I can gain perspective....and I always think of you as being my age, not the next life stage. Wait, how OLD are you anyways? I thought you were only a couple of years older than me!!!! You don't have to answer that. Love you.